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Speak out!!




If you will live a life of authenticity

If you will truly be yourself, the yourself you were meant to be.

Speak your truth, shout it, sing it, dance it, write it, get it out there.

If you believe you were not destined to rust out, to go gently into that good night.

If you believe you were here for a purpose.

DON’T pipe down, play it small, remain quiet….

Speak out!!!


On Freedom

biker-407123_1920I’ve written a lot about goals.

On working hard on them and reviewing daily.

On some I’m doing really well and on others it’s about having faith and making tiny steps.

Its also about tracking goals daily so that my methods can be adjusted.

But what it’s really about is freedom.

Freedom to live my life the way I want to.  Freedom to not be dictated to:  by employers, by society, by family, by “shoulds.”   Freedom to look after my family and friends.  Freedom to have adventures.  Freedom to be the real me.

At 55 I’m finally ready to grow up.  I’m designing my life the way I want it to be, not by societal norms.  I’ve done all the things I “should” do – get married, have children, buy a house, have a career.  Some of these things have been a success in anyone’s eyes – I have a long and happy marriage, I have two kids whom I adore, plus a bunch of awesome friends who I regard as family, and I have a house in an extremely desirable area.   I’ve paid my dues and now it’s my turn to do what the hell ever I want.  Freedom to choose

I desperately need another big adventure.

Part of my big adventure is working on my hard on my goals – adventures of the mind.

But I need physical adventures too.


Freedom to walk off with my backpack and keep going and to stop when I feel like it.  Freedom to ride my motorbike into the sunset.  Freedom to sit at Parisian cafes drinking espressos and (shock horror) foie gras and watching the world go by.  Freedom to snorkel off a sandy tropical beach as the palm trees wave languidly in the breeze.  Freedom to laugh and haggle in Asian markets.  Freedom to chat to fellow travellers at airports.  Freedom to earn my own income that’s contingent only on myself, not subject to the whims of an employer.

The question is:  what’s the next big adventure going to be?




When The Student Is Ready The Teacher Will Appear

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You know the old adage “when the student is ready the teacher will appear” well I’ve been waiting for my teacher for what seems like ages.  Evidently I must be ready because in the last week or so I’ve encountered so many materials from this one person that I’ve started to feel slightly hunted.  The Universe definitely has a message for me!  Cue my *happy dance* !  Whoop! Whoop!   Its. About. Freaking. Time.

Apparently Tony Robbins is my guru.  I have encountered (and bought) two CD courses, both the manuals (in perfect unused condition) and “Unlimited Power” by Tony Robbins. For the princely sum of NZ$30.  Whoever originally bought these would have paid hundreds.  I’ve long been a fan of Tony Robbins, having read “Awaken the Giant Within” years ago, and I’ve always wanted to attend one of his courses in person, but given the money involved and add on the travel and it’s out of my league right now.  But this is the perfect option as its cost me next to nothing and I can work through in my own time.

To continue to rebuild my life I need to change some of the associations I’ve held for too long, about money, exercise and work, something which I am determined to do.  I’m working hard on it and tracking my goals on a daily basis….Did you know that if you want to earn $100,000 in a year you need to be making $12.50 every single hour?  I didn’t either, but there you go!

So what have I learned so far?

  1.   I’ve learned what scares me
  2. What I get from not following through on those actions
  3. What it will cost me if I don’t follow through
  4. The benefits I will get by taking action on these scary things
  5. Some of the associations I’ve been making with things I have issues with e.g. Money is bad (ugh…. middle class 1960s NZ up-bringing showing through there)
  6. The reasons why I must change
  7. Ways to get myself out of those limiting associations.

For example I have always had a problem about money.  I was taught that it was bad, to want it was wrong and that anyone who had it “stood on other people’s necks” to get it.  You couldn’t get much worse associations than that.  No wonder I’ve always found myself in relatively poorly paid service type jobs.  Just ask a librarian how much they are paid;  take it from me, for the amount of knowledge and training involved it’s terrible.  Compared say, to an engineer especially.

Thanks to Tony Robbins I’m now learning some new associations to do with money – that it’s a power for good, it can be shared, it gives freedom, and control over one’slife.  It can be used to help others.  These are much better, more useful associations. I’m going to take these and use them to rebuild my life better and stronger and more powerfully.  I’ll keep you all posted as to how I get on.

May this be of use to you.


Why Am I Sharing My Life?

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Because I’m horribly opinionated and I love to write, so this is an easy way to share my thoughts, feelings and opinions.  Lol.  But beyond that, I’m having to reinvent myself at age 55.  It’s not always been easy, in fact sometimes its down right difficult .  I’m learning to re-frame my redundancy into a great opportunity to carve out a life that is special, and perfect just for me.

I figure that if I’m going through all of this I might as well document it, in case my lessons are able to help others.  And, in the learning, if I teach others along the way, then the lessons might just stick in my head a little bit more effectively.  I’m having to turn a bunch of old beliefs and conditionings completely upside down, which is interesting to say the least.  In fact, now I’ve got so used to that,  that if something isn’t working I automatically “flip it” and try the opposite to see if that will be more successful.

I’m not always great at knowing what to write, some of these posts are a little rocky, a little rough around the edges, but in the words of Sheryl Sandberg “done is better than perfect”.  And that can be a little tricky for a librarian….I’m trying hard to post every day, even if it’s a bit lightweight.  Practice makes perfect, and if I haven’t got this blog format nailed yet, then I’ll have to tweak it.  Or permanently move to YouTube.  I’m not young, I’m not pretty, but I love Social Media and really want to maintain a significant presence here.

So I’m working on it all, and documenting madly with my two crappy pages a day,and hopefully on the way I’m helping others.

May this be of use to you.

Seven Ways To Raise Your Standards

7 ways to raise your standards


Here’s my take on some common ways that we can raise our standards:

  1. By  not allowing ourselves to be treated badly by other people
  2. Having only useful or beautiful objects in our homes
  3. Doing  the daily work on our goals
  4. By not listening to the fearful voices inside our heads
  5. Keeping a tidy home – if we can tidy it for visitors, then surely we can give ourselves the respect of keeping it tidy always.
  6. By not allowing negative people and talk in our lives
  7. By only wearing clothing that is a true reflection of our personalities – nothing dull, ugly or scruffy

By raising our standards we restore our self respect and attract better opportunities into our lives, otherwise we’re stuck with the same-old same-old.  In the words of Henry Ford “If you do the things you’ve always done, you’ll  always get what you’ve always got”  Right on Henry.





I can hear the groans now.  Meditation is one of those things that we know are good for us, like brussels sprouts, and has about the same appeal.   Zero., nil, nada.   We all know we should do it, but we don’t.  But you know just about every successful person I have read about meditates regularly.  So you should too, if you want to start seeing some results in your life.  Here’s why:

I took a  mindfulness course in 2016 and it was one of the best things I did to aid my recovery.  I learned in a formal setting from an experienced instructor.  I’d tried on my own in the past but the practice never really stuck.  this time it did.  Brilliant – and this is when my recovery began to really pick up speed.  It was like day and night, before meditation and after meditation.  I could now see why people got hooked on meditation and raved about it.

I can’t say that I meditate every day now, although I do try to.  I’ve become addicted to that state of quietness and the refreshment that it gives my busy mind.  If I find myself getting uptight  I am now able to get myself into a momentary state of quietness and flick out of the panic and anxiety.  It so helps.  Meditation gives us this ability to get quiet and get clear and reboot our minds.  To switch off and gain clarity.  One of the things I’ve found is that it doesn’t take long either.  A minute or two and I’m feeling refreshed, or sometimes even seconds.

With the quietness also comes insights, and creatively this is such a bonus.  As a lifelong creative I just love this.  To quote Julia Cameron it is a way of “filling the well”

So if you’re stuck, want to change your circumstances, get out of the rut you’re in, try meditating.  Take it from me, it WORKS.




It’s taken me way longer than it should have to figure it out….. but exploring has been a constant theme in my life so far.  And I don’t mean that in a completely literal sense – I believe in pushing boundaries, going to my limits, trying new stuff, seeing what’s around that next corner or over the next hill –  whether it be intellectually, physically, spiritually or emotionally.  Exploring is my passion, my dream, my first love.  New thought, new places and new ideas light me up.

I look back over my life and I see this theme of exploration again and again.  Exploring the farm where we lived as a toddler, travelling to England by boat with my Mum at age three, exploring the neighbourhood by bike at seven, reading voraciously and precociously at an early age, mountaineering at university and studying new thought and personal development as an adult.

What I love about exploration is figuring out how to do it.  figuring out new ideas, solving the problems, making things work so as to see or do something new and interesting.  Its the bumps and stumbles which make our lives rewarding , and by overcoming these we grow as individuals, and therein lies the key, the nugget of gold.  For what is the alternative?  To not grow?  To stagnate?  That to me would be a tragedy.

I believe that we are put here on this earth to grow as individuals, to make the best of the resources and gifts we are given and to ultimately make the world a better place for us having been here.   This process of exploring our world in every way, learning, applying the lessons, growing and evolving is crucial to us making this world a better place.  For humankind to evolve collectively we must improve individually and to do that we must all explore our limits.  And never cease having adventures.