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Speak out!!

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If you will live a life of authenticity

If you will truly be yourself, the yourself you were meant to be.

Speak your truth, shout it, sing it, dance it, write it, get it out there.

If you believe you were not destined to rust out, to go gently into that good night.

If you believe you were here for a purpose.

DON’T pipe down, play it small, remain quiet….

Speak out!!!

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#dowhatyoucan’t

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This summer has been all about earning money driving international visitors all over the lower South Island of New Zealand, which has meant that I haven’t had much time for my own outdoors adventuring.  I’ve been working on self development adventures instead.  Recently three of us had a day trip up Roy’s Peak.  It was sooooo good to get out in the hills for a change.  As you can see in the photo above the day was glorious and there was hardly a breath of wind – quite unexpected for this time of year.  In case you are wondering that’s me on the left in my snazzy Adventures Before Dementia t shirt with my good friend John beside me.

The point of all this is that it’s not about three people climbing a peak.  Two of them strolled up it – yes you John and Lizzie.  But one of them didn’t – no surprises who that was.  Yes moi, me, yours truly.  I admit it here now and in public .  I struggled going up that goddamn hill.  I huffed and puffed and plodded.  I’ve always been ashamed of the fact that I’ve struggled whenever I’ve climbed anything of any consequence.  I’ve been up a few peaks by this stage in my life and if there’s is someone sweating and puffing and going reallllly slowly, chances are that it will be me.  It’s literally one foot in front of another, plodding.  So embarrassing.  BUT dammit I do it.  I get there eventually and nothing but nothing can take that achievement away.

So isn’t this a metaphor for our lives?  Why are we so ashamed when we’re making a good honest effort?  We may not be as fast as others or as able, or skilled, or agile, or clever, or whatever, but with determination we will get there in the end.  We need to embrace our struggles, for these become our adventures, these are what make us and what ultimately become our greatest triumphs.  In the heart of every difficulty there  lies the seed of its solution.  Your bump in the road may be someone else’s Mt Everest.  So don’t laugh next time you see someone struggling with ANYTHING – give them a high five instead.  They’re going at their own pace but at least they’re out there trying .  At least they are having adventures and #doingwhattheycan’t.

Inspiration for this post came in part from a Casey Neistat video – watch it here.  Don’t let anything stop you, be the man or woman in the arena, face marred by blood and dust, striving valiantly.   Do what you can’t, have the adventure, live the dream, be the person on the iceberg (you need to watch the video to get that!)

And if you see me sweating up a hill one day, stop and say hi – I could probably use the rest!

 

Cheers

Robx

 

 

 

 

Personal Brands: Why You Should Have One

adventuresbeforedementia #heart“Happiness is when you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony”       Mahatma Gandhi

And the Mahatma should know ’bout that stuff..

I have spent a truck load of time working on my personal brand in the last year or so.  My personal brand is #heart, and that’s my logo up above.   Behind this a credo which is the guts of it all.  For me living with #heart means acting with courage, intuition and love – this is my credo.  I’ve written about it before here, and about being authentic in my previous post here.

Working through all this took a great deal of time and I’ve written about it here but its been the most worthwhile exercise I’ve probably ever done, because it forced me to get to the heart of who I am and what I stand for, and because of this it now enables me to truly live my values. A personal brand says to the world “this is who I am” and more importantly “this is what I stand for”  As an individual it is incredibly important to me to live my values and what’s more its brought far more harmony to my life, and consequently more happiness.   It’s a wonderful feeling when all the parts of you are heading in the same direction.  Does that sound odd?  I used to feel scattered, with bits of me all over the place.  This process has enabled me to metaphorically gather myself back together and progress.  I imagined all those scattered little pieces tied to me with tiny ropes and all pulling in different directions, not a helpful image. But now I’m whole.  Phew!    The Mahatma was spot on with that quote at the beginning of this piece.

Figuring out my personal brand then made it  super easy to design a logo with the help of a professional.  It took about an hour of her time all up.  Instead of messing round with a bunch of random ideas I’d done 90 percent of the thinking before I even got to the designer, so I saved money.

Here’s why you need your own brand.

  1.  Decision making is easier because you filter it through your credo which is values based.
  2. You save money on products because you already know what is going to be in alignment with your values – 90 percent of the hard work is done when you work out your brand.
  3. You can apply your brand to your online presence – it becomes your image to the world.  People immediately know what you’re all about.  It doesn’t take a whole heap of effort on their part.
  4. Being able to stand up for what you believe in gives an amazing sense of self respect.
  5. Life is so much more efficient when you’re not fighting against yourself all the time!

I really really recommend going through this process, most of the work involved is thinking and that costs nothing.

May this be of use to you

Robx

 

Nailed It!

 

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When we first moved into our home nearly 20 years ago, the two goals that I had for this place were to feel as if you were entering into a personal Eden when you walked through the gate and to be able to see and hear the songbirds in the trees close to the windows.  The Eden one has been well and truly achieved for some time, but the songbirds have taken much longer – they’re all around the garden, and occasionally we will see one in a tree close to the house.

As of this morning I’ve nailed both of those goals.  Big Time.  I sat down at the computer to write this post and heard birdsong – I looked up and in the tree outside the window (I’m in a second storey room) was a Tui singing (listen to one here) and looking straight at me.  As he sang two of his friends came and joined him.  I’m sitting here literally crying as I write this.  I’ve done it, I’ve reached my goal and what’s more I’ve blasted right through it.  Oh. My. God.  What is even more incredible, and slightly uncanny was that this morning I was planning on writing a post about reprogramming my life.  It was as if the Universe was telling me.  You’re right Rob – you’ve achieved the stuff you wanted to in the first half, but now it’s time to go for it with the next part.  I’ve got so many ideas about what I want to do with this blog, and other social media accounts that I can’t wait.

I’m off for a celebratory cup of coffee and to plan my next post.  See you tomorrow.

May this be of use to you

Robx

Why Adventures?

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This blog is called Adventures Before Dementia because I aim to fit in as many as humanly possible before I shuffle off this mortal coil.  Hopefully by having an excess of Adventures the Dementia part of the title will never happen or at least be as minimal as possible!   I aim to have all kinds of adventures and not just travel ones, even if they are my most favourite kind.   Adventures of the mind, the heart, the soul, adventures of the spirit and last but by no means least, creative adventures.

Why?  Just because.  Just because everybody needs Adventures, proper ones spelt with a capital letter.  Serious Adventures.  We need them in order to grow as individuals.  We need them to make our life interesting, to give us something to look forward to and something to remember in the dark days of winter, we need them to rise above the humdrum, the run of the mill.  For in adventuring we find freedom……

May this be of use to you

Rob

How To Find A Mentor For Free

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Two words:  Look online.  Back in the day to find a mentor,  the standard advice was to do your research and find someone in your industry that you respected and whom you thought might be helpful and then write to phone them with a request to mentor you.  I’ve always found this approach cringe worthy.  I really really really dislike the whole attitude of asking someone to be your mentor when you don’t know them because it’s an enormous ask and a significant time commitment for the other person, so why should they bother, what’s in it for them?

We are so fortunate now that we can access the world’s knowledge online.  We don’t need to awkwardly ask a stranger for a favour to be our mentor.   There is knowledge from the world’s greatest in any given sphere of accomplishment online at the drop of an internet connection.  Lucky old us –  we can now learn for free from so many amazing people.  I need repetition for something to stick, so  I can watch You Tube videos or listen to podcasts over and over and over again until I’ve got the point.   Fortunately I don’t need to go to the thousand dollar seminar ten times.   And the wonderful thing is that this is all available to us for zilch, nada, nothing.

Apart from a bad Amazon Kindle habit I hardly ever pay for information online – most of what I need is free and I can try out dozens of different options to see which work best for me and are aligned with my values.   Every day sees another offer for an e-course come into my inbox or Facebook feed, most of which are from people I’ve never heard of and I really do wonder why they think I should buy their courses.   At present I’m happy to ignore the whole lot and do my own research until I’ve developed a little more discretion, and a little more clarity about the exact things I need to learn and who I want to learn them from.

Personal finances and investing are my weak point, so I am investigating sources of information for that right now.  What do I want from a  mentor?  Someone to copy, someone to tell me where I’m going wrong, to point me in the right direction, to kick me in the butt if necessary, to inspire me.  Most definitely to inspire me.

But most of all mentors are people I’d like to curl up with on a comfy sofa in the corner of a room with a good bottle of red wine and have a long and far reaching chat with.  It’s that simple.  Imagine doing that with Tim Ferriss or Oprah or my favourite of the moment – Tony Robbins.  They’re not that special or different from the rest of us, they don’t have superpowers – they’ve just been through tough times and they’ve made it out the other side successfully.  We can learn from them.  The only real difference is that they didn’t give up on their dreams.  These people grind it out, are focused and know exactly where they’re going.

It’s not just the big name celebrities who are worth watching/listening to either- there are loads of videos on You Tube from  ordinary people doing cool stuff and living their dreams.  We just need to watch listen and learn and realize that if anyone has done this before then we can too.  

So check out You Tube, Reddit and Podcast Addict.  Dive down that internet wormhole and see where it leads you.  Listen, learn and most of all TAKE ACTION.  I wish you well my friend.

May this be of use to you

Rob

 

 

I’m A Warrior – What’s Your Archetype?

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Can a 55 year old woman with two kids and a husband be a warrior?  Hell yeah.

As much as anything being a warrior is an archetype, a mindset, an attitude to life.

I’ve had a few challenges lately.  I think the Universe has been trying to tell me something about my usual mild mannered ways.  I’m the typical Taurean bull – quiet and peaceful and sucks it up for ages until I’ve had enough and then there’s an explosion that you really don’t want to be around for.   There’s been a number of individuals that I’ve come across recently who have been down right obnoxious and bullying, and I’ve caught the sharp end of their temper.  One of them even chased me into a bar to inform me what a horrible person I was.  My daughter nearly peed herself laughing when I told her about it.  As she put it “Mum was in a bar fight!” Thanks babes.  I’ve a feeling that I really need to grow up and gain a backbone or I’ll suffer this crap for the rest of my life, which is not an appealing prospect.

I’ve always loved hard stuff.  I  don’t mind physical or for that matter mental hardship and I relish a challenge.  So from now on I’m taking on my warrior archetype, until it is no longer useful and there is a tiny ninja turtle figure on my windowsill to remind me to harden up.

So what is an archetype?  According to Dictionary.com they are:

An original model after which other similar things are patterned. In the psychology of Carl Jung, archetypes are the images, patterns, and symbols that rise out of the collective unconscious and appear in dreams, mythology, and fairy tales.

So the Warrior archetype would be a kind of universal symbol of a warrior  of which most of us would agree on the qualities personified.  A warrior should exhibit for example :

  • Strength (both inner and outer)
  • Courage
  • Physical fitness
  • Control
  • Patience
  • Leadership
  • Ability to work alone
  • On a quest
  • Confidence
  • Takes no crap
  • Slightly scary……

Where I am going with this post, is that I believe that at certain points  we need to take on the mantle of another personality to enable us to get on with our lives.  At the moment I really need to be a Warrior, but I could see that perhaps later in life I could take on the mantle of a Sage or a Poet or a Mystic to fulfill my purpose.

Now every morning I meditate on what it is to be a Warrior and feel my inner strength and courage.  Please don’t let it take a “bar fight” for you to discover yours!

May this be of use to you

Rob