Now that I’m back in the groove again, I want to start out right away and ‘fess up that writing this post is truly buttock-clenching. I am sharing in the hope that anyone in the same situation as me might find some encouragement to deal with their money issues. I have some beliefs around money that are seriously limiting me and I’m going to be writing a series about what I’m doing to heal myself of these.
So what exactly IS a wealth wound? It’s a negative belief associated with wealth. I’ve got Tony Robbins to thank for recognizing these, which I might add are many and varied. You name it, I’ve got it when it comes to wealth wounds and so in the name of naming, shaming and ultimately healing here’s my list.
- Money doesn’t grow on trees
- There’s not enough to go around
- It’s too expensive
- We can’t afford it
- Money is dirty
- Money is shameful
- It’s greedy to want more than the absolute minimum
- You have to do bad things to get it
- People who have lots of money are shallow
- I am not worthy of financial abundance
- You have to work hard and sell your soul to get money
- Money is the root of all evil
- People who have lots of money “stand on other people’s necks to get it”
Now that they’re all written down and not spinning around in my head causing chaos they’re laughable. And conflicting. That last one is outstanding – I can remember being told that quite clearly and evidently it’s hung around doing no good whatsoever. Clearly these beliefs are not serving me well and it is TIME FOR THEM TO BEGONE!
For many, especially us baby boomers we absorbed these lessons in childhood either consciously or unconsciously and we’ve been carting them round behind us like heavy luggage ever since. Well its time to drop those bags!
So how do we recognize our wealth wounds:
- Gather together your ingredients – a pencil, lots of paper and half an hour of uninterrupted time
- Set a timer for ten minutes and write down any beliefs you have associated with money. If you’re finding it hard to get into the groove start with positive beliefs and eventually the negative ones will crawl out from where they’ve been hiding.
- When time is up, corral all the negatives on to one clean sheet of paper.
- Read them and laugh – aren’t they absurd when written down? And frequently conflicting.
- Now that you’ve recognized them, take some big deep breaths (because if you’re like me this would have been painful) and give yourself a massive pat on the back. Congratulations! You’ve taken the first step.
May this be of use to you.